THE INSIDE JOB OF ‘BEING’
I am deep in the work of be-do-have. Be the person who does the thing and then you'll have the desired outcome. I get that this might sound backwards. For example, if you’re interesting in becoming a millionaire you might be asking yourself - how do I “be” a millionaire without ever having had anything close to $1,000,000 ever? I get it, this messes with your brain because many of us don’t often function like this. But I'm going to tell you a secret. Attracting wealth, success, and abundance is an inside job not an outside one. And what that means is that when you do the inside work to be whoever it is you say you're going to be your brain then sets you up to do the things that kind of person does. From there you'll have that what you are after. It's backwards right? Think about it, more than likely, your brain is telling you that once you have success, have a million dollars, have enough income - you will find peace, you will find happiness, you'll remove the worry. You'll also have the house, the cars, the love, the joy. But it's just not how it works.
70% of lottery winners are bankrupt within 3-5 years. (National Endowment for Financial Education, 2019)
Why? Because they didn't know how to be a millionaire. I can almost hear you thinking – this doesn't make any logical sense! And I get that, but let me paint a different picture:
Before I became a mom I consciously thought about what kind of Mom I wanted to be. I decided I would breastfeed as long as I could. I decided I would be the parent that took our kids on adventures. I decided that it was perfectly safe to move to Australia with a brand new baby. I decided that I was the kind of mom who would stay home for the first 15 months so that we could travel abroad with a baby. Not because we had all the money to do this, because we did not have all the money to do this, but I believed I could. I decided I would be calm, quiet, patient – all the things I am usually not. The fact of the matter is, I decided that who I was as a mom was that person, and I lived in to her. Was breastfeeding hard, at first? Ya. Did we worry about money while we were away? sometimes, ya. Do I have days of impatience and frustration? Umm ya. I’m a mom. But guess what did happen? We crated our reality. We were brave enough to move to Australia with a 12 week old baby, I breastfeed until the day before my son’s first birthday when he decided that was enough. We had the most beautiful adventure of a lifetime all because we decided we would and I lived into being the mom who could. Today, I still live into the being of motherhood that I choose and it shows up.
It's a simple example, I know, but my point is this: The power of creating the life you desire lies in language you choose and the decisions you make. When we say it, write it, own it, our brain has to deal with that. When you believe it wholeheartedly in your future, that's what shows up. Some people struggle with this concept. “I'm not a millionaire, I don't know any millionaires. How do I just decide to say and believe that I am a millionaire?” And here's my trick:
Start with it as a possibility. If anything is possible, living into a new version of yourself is possible. What is your future abundant self like? What do you do? What do you wear? What do you have? What do you eat, drink, how do you treat others? How do you feel? Imagine it in such detail imagine it as though it has already happened and then come back to the present and start being that person. It really is that simple.
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